If our relationships are not working and you are aware that you cannot change the other person, your life will be far more positive. People are only a mirror of an aspect of us, so naturally we have to change ourselves then the reflection changes. Firstly stop expecting others to meet our needs, this will never happen. We are responsible for our own happiness, our own independence and sense of security. Expecting someone else to be responsible creates a co-dependent relationship. Which in turn causes HAVOC!!!