Fears Rise for Loners
Millions of Brits including children – risk illness and even suicide as modern life turns us into a “lonely society” a report warned yesterday.
Rising divorce rates and heavier work commitments are leading to soaring isolation and stress.
Nearly half those quizzed in a survey for the mental health foundation said people were getting lonelier.
Veronica’s Comment: Loneliness is thinking that something outside your own self will make you more complete or happier or more fulfilled, have a better career, more money, whiter teeth, a beautiful garden, a trouble-free life, a world without embarrassment, that you can live happily every after. This pattern keeps us dissatisfied and is the trap of the ego, the ego thirsts and hungers for the recognition that you are somebody, it causes us a lot of pain and suffering. No wonder people are diagnosed with mental health disorders, people enjoy doing difficult things, nobody seems to really want effortlessness better still they don’t even know about it!!
Now aloneness is total and complete. Not loneliness but aloneness. Loneliness is always concerned with others; aloneness is concerned with oneself. There are very few people who enjoy their own company. It is a very strange world: nobody enjoys their own company but everybody wants others to enjoy their company! If they don’t enjoy it they feel upset – and alone they feel disgusted with themselves. In fact, if YOU cannot enjoy your own company, who else is going to enjoy it? The outside world doesn’t work, it never has, history repeats itself time and time again, we don’t hear much about how painful it is to go from being completely stuck to becoming unstuck. The process of becoming unstuck requires tremendous bravery, tremendous courage, because basically we are completely changing our way of perceiving reality. We are undoing a pattern that is not just our pattern. It’s the human pattern: we project onto the world billions of possibilities of attaining resolution. When the resolution is always within!!! How very simple.