Q: I have some issues with my family regarding support. I have been doing the personal development work now for 2 years and I love it – my life has transformed. However, my family don’t support me, they think of me as crazy and my sister calls it the ‘wanky projection stuff’. Most of the time I am ok with it, however, recently I have wanted to move forward and further my development. In order to do this, I need their support in terms of looking after my daughter for 1 day every few weeks. However, whenever I ask for any kind of support, I am met with reluctance and negative comments. I find it hard to get a balance between being with my family and experiencing their negativity and doing what I love. I feel a quiet despair at times. I want to move forward but it sometimes feels like I have to choose between my family and my happiness. Thank you.
A: There is always duality inside our mind, in actual fact these are the two conflicting aspects inside your own mind. When you are developing yourself, it is impossible to stay in negativity. I would ask first of all, why do you need their support? What I see from what you have written is that your happiness is conditional on the family’s support. There are so many options waiting there for you when you are really ready for happiness. If you can respect your family and how frightened they are and have no expectation on them, you can then only move forward putting your needs first and this brings the perfect balance inside you.