Only through decisions do you become more and more conscious, only through decisions do you become more and more definite, only through decisions do you become very sharp. Only healthy people are creative, they always make decisions if you cannot help yourself on what grounds do you think you can help others? There are so many people trying to help one another when they cannot help themselves.
People go from one thing to another, from one relationship to another, from one teacher to another, from one place of worship to another – not because they are great seekers but because they are incapable of decision. So they go from one to another. This is their way to avoid commitment. I know as I ran away from commitment all my life never made decisions tried to help when I had no answers.
This is what is happening in today’s modern world. People have become so immature, so childish; they are losing all maturity. Maturity comes only when you are ready to face the pain of your being; maturity comes only when you are ready to take the challenge. And there is no greater challenge than love.
To live happily with others is the greatest challenge in the world. The other people become like a mirror to you. You can see your ruthlessness in the other. The other provokes your unconscious, brings it to the surface.
You will have to know all hidden parts of your being and the easiest way is to become aware that in your relationships you see your mirror, your reflection.
There are certain things that you can know of only by doing them. They cannot be understood just by knowing them. Actually you can not know them until you do them. So today experiment with yourself, test yourself. What do really see in another? Are you really making decisions? Are you really Living a fulfilled life or are you just pretending that you are?